21st Century Relationships.

Disclaimer: A heavily personal opinion expressed. Considering the fact that having a different view from the crowd, most of you wouldn’t seem to agree on the same and maybe, call me old fashioned, but it is what it is. Hope you enjoy reading if not, love me back in the next post!

As I begin to write, my internet abandons me.  This is one of the complicated relationship(s) that we, the 21^st century people possess. The sweet little relationship with the internet, mobile, television and all that the technology could come up with. More so, that we prefer talking to the mobile via a zillion apps than real people with real thoughts and ideas. But wait, we aren’t supposed to talk to strangers right? Don’t you remember what we were taught growing up? Follow all of them deliberately, the society says so, you see.  A lot of sarcasm there, right? Well, welcome to my blog. 

Relationships. What is a relationship? Whatever the dictionary defines it as? Well, no. Whatever the heart perceives it as. Whatever makes you happy, whatever addicts you in a beautiful way, a way such that it holds on to you and yet doesn’t bar you from exploring new horizons, that is, doesn’t limit you in anyway. That’s exactly what a relationship should do to you. It should engulf your soul and embrace your heart. Fill you up with mountains of confidence even when deep down you know you’re not all that great. It should leave one overwhelmingly positive and ecstatic.

Like the ounce of consideration when  you hoped somebody cared,

Like the mid-summer rain that beautifies everything around after an irritatingly humid summer afternoon with hot winds and cranky moods,

A relationship should strike you.   

Not just for a moment or two, but for eternity and beyond. 

Is this even possible? Easy said than done, right? All the lovery-dovery-overly romantic  descriptions and ideals, just for the sake of poetry?  Definitely, not. It is indeed possible. What is poetry if not life as a metaphor?

Did love, friendship, admiralty in its pure & unadulterated form ever exist as quoted in history and books? Or was it just made up? Like our fb posts, pictures and so called happiness and richness? That's something left to you to ponder over.

Shoot to the present. 2015 it is. Beautiful people with broad mindsets, exploring new ideas and ventures, lending their support as and when possible, courageous enough to break the routine and embrace what they love. This is what I see in most people I associate with. If quite a few of them can be amicable in their actions, so can the rest of the society. With such amazing people out there, relationships should crawl towards betterment, but is in the contrary. 

Apparently, the meaning of a relationship is simple. Find someone appealing, strike a conversation with them, fall in love, enjoy all the hype and adrenaline rush to talk, to meet, to spend time, have little fights, laugh at them, apologize,fight again, stop talking and turn into complete strangers, or should I say, invisible to each other even if you pass by the person a million times a day. That's what it has come to. The reason being simple, when you get to know a person or assume(emphasize on the word) to be in love, one deliberately ignores the flaws, only at a later time does it flood you with frustration and disappointment. More often than not, we misinterpret love and attraction. When it's love, it is with the right person, someone who would sky-rocket your confidence and bring out the best in you. Sadly, what a woman wants is infinite security and what a man wants is a mate. That, in itself, my friend, are two different things.

Yet another reason for crippled relationships being, rushing in. 

Reached middle-school, still don't have a girlfriend/boyfriend? This is a major drawback. How can someone supposedly be single? You could give up on oxygen, but not a lover. Definitely not. You must be punished and sent to prison or maybe, slaughtered? 

And viola! Log onto some social networking site, right now, stalk your middle-school junior and you're sure to find heartbreak status updates, or 'in a relationship with'( a guy who doesn't even know to tie his shoe-lace properly), so on and so forth. Now, this isn't a relationship for heaven's sake! But love, age is just a number and all that, or just Google some quote related to love and convince yourself it's okay to be in love when you should be learning your math and values.

Too much satire in one post? Forgive me, I could go on and on about the topic. 

Let's get to the brilliant part of the 21st century relationships.

Our relationships are beautiful no matter how short a while it lasts. 

Board a train, your co-passengers turn into your new friends, how beautiful is that? Again, I'm definitely not even beginning to consider the people who are busy plugging in their ear-phones and kill the conversation even before it starts. 

A sweet thank you to the cab driver or auto driver with a heart warming smile. 

Offering to help a tourist lost in your city.

Wishing a good day to your co-passenger even though you have no idea who they are. 

Wishing luck to the person nervously studying volumes for their interview.

As little a gesture they seem, the happiness that oozes of out it is beyond any materialistic possession. I have done all of them and trust me, it makes my day! :) 

If not for these little moments, what else makes us alive? There is an epitome of difference between mere survival and being alive. Be alive, do what you love, let it kill you in fact, let it eat away all your time, be so busy embracing the goodness around, you'll soon notice things falling into place, you'll notice people falling in love with you, you'll fall in love with little moments, you'll be a better person. A person who rightly fits for a relationship, the fairytale, unadulterated and positive kind of relationship. A relationship that lasts beyond the initial phase of furore. 

"Satire alert"

Dance like no one is watching.

Because they are not.

They are busy checking their phone. 

Whilst people are turning monotonous, turn yourself into a firefly and amaze each soul. 

Fall in love, then. 

Happy Weekend, Dearies! :)

©Deekshita Srinivas. 2nd May, 2015.